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The goal of this website is to give support to people who are facing problems in their relationship related to cheating, abuse and narcissism. I am living in Europe and English is not my native language, I wish you will excuse me if I make some grammatical errors. I have a background in neuroscience and I am currently doing brain research in university in my home country. I decided to write in English because I wish to reach as many people as I can around the world. My aim is to help people like you to deal with problems related to cheating, betrayal, abuse and narcissism in a relationship. If you wish to read more about me, please visit page Site Overview. If you are a native English speaker and would like to help me to improve this website by proofreading articles published here, please send me email to This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it

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If you wish to read personal stories of people who have been in a relationship with a narcissistic partner, please visit page Stories - Narcissism. To read the stories of people who have experienced cheating in their relationship, visit page Stories - Cheating. I am publishing new stories in these sections on weekly basis, please feel free to return for updates.

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How to get over the mental pain due to narcissism or cheating

Please familiarize yourself with the book Learn to Control your Emotions. The book is introducing ways to deal with narcissism and cheating by learning to control one's emotions. The aim is to help you to speed up your recovery after emotional tragedy. The book is easy to read and emphasis is on practicality. The goal is to give factual scientific insights regarding the mental pain and to introduce ways to help the mind and the brain to heal faster after tragedies in life. You can read more about this topic and download the book from page Recovery after Cheating and Narcissism.

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Personal advice and feedback

If you would like to hear my feedback regarding your situation please send me email to This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it . You are not alone. Together we will get you through this difficult phase in your life. You can start the healing process right now. I will support you every step of the way. To read personal stories about cheating and narcissism, see sections Stories - Narcissism and Stories - Cheating. To read more about cheating and narcissism, see sections below or use navigation bar on top of the page.

 

- Maria

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Please familiarize yourself with the following sections

Recovery After Cheating and Narcissism - How to recover and heal your heart after experiencing cheating or narcissism in a relationship. Healing after a relationship with a mental abuser.

Narcissism - Information about narcissism. Learn to recognize a narcissist and understand how the mind of a narcissist works. How to cope with a narcissist and how to leave a narcissist. Emotional detachment from a narcissist. Support and advice.

Cheating and Infidelity - Information about cheating. Learn to understand how the mind of a cheater works. Healing and recovering after cheating. How to forget the memory of cheating. Support and advice.

Emotions and the Brain - Understanding the biological basis of emotions. How negative experiences related to cheating and narcissism affect the brain. Learn to control negative emotions.

Stories: Narcissism - Personal stories of life with narcissistic spouse.

Stories: Cheating - Personal stories of life with cheating spouse.

Blog: Cheating, Narcissism, Brain and Mind - From this section you find information and links to articles dealing with topics related to cheating, narcissism, mind and brain. Feel free to bookmark this page to return for updates.

 

 

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Healing after Cheating and Narcissism PDF Print E-mail

 

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The goal of this website is to give support to people who are facing problems in their relationship related to cheating, abuse and narcissism. I am living in Europe and English is not my native language, I wish you will excuse me if I make some grammatical errors. I have a background in neuroscience and I am currently doing brain research in university in my home country. I decided to write in English because I wish to reach as many people as I can around the world.

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Learning to Control Your Emotions

You have navigated to these pages because you are dealing with narcissism or cheating in your relationship. You are going through all sorts of negative emotions due to problems related to your spouse. Some of the emotions you are experiencing may include:

  • Anger
  • Depression
  • Anxiety
  • Humiliation
  • Severe mental pain

The most important thing for you to do right now is to get rid of the mental pain caused by the memory of cheating or unhappy events related to your spouse, after that you can decide what you wish to do with your relationship. You may wish to stay with your husband or wife or you may wish to go your separate ways. Whatever you decide to do, it is best that you make your decision with a clear mind and not when your thoughts are clouded by pain, depression, anxiety, anger and frustration.

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My Life with a Narcissistic Husband PDF Print E-mail

 

Dear Maria,

To say I was surprised by your actually responding to my email, would be an understatement!  I'm touched that you did.  Just to repeat:  I'm not sure I even speak and write English as well as you and it's my first and only language!  Either way, your message comes through very well. I think that those of us involved with narcissists NEED to talk about it.   We feel so crazy that we self-isolate, hide what's going on from friends and family, and learn to blame ourselves for all that is wrong.   When we finally realize what's going on, the need to speak about it is overwhelming.  Finally, we have proof that we are not crazy.  I appreciate this opportunity to tell you some of my story.  Though I must insist on anonymity because we are still living in the same house.

In my situation, it seemed as if every time I tried to gain some power back, by trying to become more independent, my husband would push me back down---but always in subtle ways.  For instance, if I was feeling good about something (such as getting my art in a show or gallery), and I would voice that pride or happiness, my husband would say something like "well, it's just a small show",  when what I expected to hear was "yes, good for you."  There was truth to what he said, it WAS a small show;   (I would think, oh, maybe he's right.  Maybe it really is not as big  of an accomplishment as I'd thought.)  I'd go from feeling really good, to feeling really diminished--in a few short words from him.  Or if I wanted to do something on my birthday and it conflicted with something he wanted to do, he would tell me I was selfish.

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Ways to Overcome Emotional Pain - Mental Tools PDF Print E-mail

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The goal of this website is to give support to people who are facing problems in their relationship related to cheating, abuse and narcissism. I am living in Europe and English is not my native language, I wish you will excuse me if I make some grammatical errors. I have a background in neuroscience and I am currently doing brain research in university in my home country. I decided to write in English because I wish to reach as many people as I can around the world.

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Dealing With Emotional Wounds


If one gets physically wounded, one knows what to expect. If a dog bites us, we feel the pain. It helps us to deal with the pain when we know exactly what has caused our pain. We also know that after a while the intensity of the pain will go down. We know this because we have experienced similar situations earlier in our life. We have injured ourselves many times. We all have hit our toe to a sharp edge and felt the piercing pain that follows. We all know that the intensity of the pain will decrease after couple seconds.

It is a different situation with emotional pain. When one does not see the wound it is difficult to judge the nature and seriousness of one's condition. When we hit our toe, we feel strong pain, but we do not see blood, so we know the situation is not (necessarily) serious, even though there is strong pain. When we feel hurt emotionally, there are no clear visible marks either. So we tend to think our wounds are not very serious in physiological sense. However, we do feel strong pain, which conflicts with the fact that there are no visible signs of injury.

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Methods That Help to Regain Trust After Cheating in a Relationship - How to Recover After an Affair PDF Print E-mail

 

Hi Maria,

I am in the Stage 3 of dealing with the cheating and this is definitely a rough one. I have to say that reading that page is actually what convinced me to buy your book. You really nailed it. Stage 2 was so much easier than this one is. I am a person that does not dwell on my issues if I can possibly avoid it but this one invades even my dreams or nightmares would be more accurate. This makes it so much harder to deal with, in fact I did go ahead and get medication to deal with the anxiety. I already had an anxiety disorder due to medical problems and till this refused to take meds for it since I firmly believe we all have anxiety. I felt I needed to learn to deal with it, but this one hit me so physically (I was having 24 hour a day panic attacks) that I felt it was just crazy to not get any help.

By far the hardest issue for me is to believe in him again. He says he loves me and I know he means this. He says he is sorry and I also know he means that as well. His attraction to the other woman was more of an ego stroke of being pursued. He is turning 50 this year and I think that played a part. He snapped out of it but only after he slept with her the one time (believe me I have confirmed this with the other woman). He told her after avoiding her calls and not answering her texts a few days later that it was over, wrong, should have never happened and he couldn’t have any further contact with her.

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