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Learn to control your mind when facing tragedies such as infidelity, betrayal and mistrust in a relationship
We born to this world and travel through our life, each following our own unique path. While on the road, we experience different things. How these experiences affect us, depends partially on our genes and partially on the environment we live in.
If we have experienced many negative things during our childhood or early adulthood, those things are bound to affect our lives. In some cases the enemy can be found from the very structure of one’s own brain. Even relatively small imbalance in a given neurotransmitter system can lead to various unpleasant conditions, such as obsessive-compulsive disorder, ADHD, chronic depression etc, which can greatly reduce the quality of life.
The biochemical environment of each brain is unique
Just as the color of the hair can vary from jet black to almost colorless blond, the biochemical environment of human brain can vary greatly between different individuals. Each person is unique in terms of biochemical and structural composition of neuronal network. Due to this, each individual is located somewhere between the extremities in terms of "perfect" mental health (an ideal state, in reality nearly impossible to accomplish) and serious mental incapacity in form of some devastating mental illness.
Given the above, imagine if you could gain control over your feelings instead of letting your feelings control you. This may sound unrealistic at first. However, with sufficient amount of training people are able to learn to control wide range of physiological processes, such as the rate of the heart beat and the feeling of pain, only to mention couple examples. It has been shown that people who are able to control the intensity of the pain they feel in certain circumstances are able to inactivate certain neuronal circuits in on-demand fashion. Why would other feelings be any different from pain?
The secret of the success of many great leaders is thought to be that they are able to direct their concentration solely on the task at hand, closing all irrelevant thoughts outside. In order to win, a chess champion has to be able to shut down all external distractions and direct his undivided attention to the game. This is crucial ability, a divider between average players and grand masters.
- Maria
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It would be way too simplistic to categorize people in terms of the mental health. Instead, every individual is a unique mixture between the two. It is comforting to know that it is completely natural to be depressed, obsessed and anxious time to time, as natural as it is to be happy and excited. Problems occur if one single mode becomes the ruling factor in everyday life.
i am so hurt angry and feel betrayed that i do not know how to cope with this soup of emotions. i feel like a revenge and have it all planed. i have found some time ago several chatting sights where he is chatting with people. he denied it but i have still told him to stop he said it must have been some mistake tat he will be more carefull that this sites do not pop up in his inbox. i am loozing respect for him totaly but still love him. now he is punising me by ignoring me and moving in to spare bedroom. i feel that now my only option is to concentrate on myself get fit healthy and slim and then leave him as a revenge. but i do not know if i have the strenght to stay on that road for such a long time without loozing the energy and faling totaly apart. he is a stubborn and quite man which doesnt show emotions and doesnt comunicate to much. please how do i get over this