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The goal of this website is to give support to people who are facing problems in their relationship related to cheating, abuse and narcissism. I am living in Europe and English is not my native language, I wish you will excuse me if I make some grammatical errors. I have a background in neuroscience and behavioral sciences and I am currently doing brain research related to these topics in university in my home country. I decided to write in English because I wish to reach as many people as I can around the world.

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I received an email from one of the readers of this website, who asked me to write about how to get over the memory of cheating, when wife has been having an affair but has ended it and wishes to continue relationship. Writer would like to continue relationship but he is still feeling strong pain when he is thinking of matters related to cheating. Writer was wondering how long it will take to get over traumatic event such as cheating or an affair and whether he is ever able to trust his wife again.

I have been writing about cheating and how to get over it a lot on this website. I can share my personal experience regarding this matter, I wish it will help. I was in a relationship with man who was dishonest and eventually turned out to be cheater. I found out about cheating but I did not leave immediately. I tried my best to make relationship work, but in the end I drew my conclusions based on the behavior of my spouse and I ended relationship. The reason why I did that was that I was not able to trust my spouse after all the lies he had told me. One reason for this was that I never sensed my spouse was genuinely sorry about lying. He never really apologized from all his heart. This kind of behavior was most likely due to narcissistic characteristics in my spouse.

However, if the cheating spouse is NOT narcissistic and is genuinely sorry about what has happened, then it is easier to regain trust. It is possible to learn to trust again after cheating. It will take time and there are certain phases one must go through in order to get fully over cheating. You can read more about these phases from page How to Get Over Cheating and Betrayal.

The brain is reacting to cheating in same manner as the brain of a drug addict is reacting to deprivation of drug. To read more about this, visit page Cheating and The Brain.

If you understand the biological basis for your emotions, it is easier for you to learn to control negative emotions and get over cheating faster. To read more about this topic and to find out how you can help yourself to get over cheating, visit page Recovery After Cheating.

- Maria

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I created this website aiming to help those who are dealing with narcissism, cheating, mistrust, insecurity, betrayal or other problems in their relationship. If you wish to read more about me and my background, please visit page Site Overview. If you are interested in topics related to cheating, narcissism, mind and brain, please feel free to read my blog. Blog is being updated on daily basis. If you wish to read about methods I used to teach my brain to get rid of my "addiction" to a narcissist, please visit pages Control Your Emotions and Recovery After Cheating.