Oh my if I justt knew what happened him to make him this way. Mine has lied, cheated and gone on the attack when I found out. Has never explained himself once. I feed him all the love still wasn't enough. I heard phone messages to other women always wants to see if they need help! You hit that one on the money
He is so good at manipulation he was still seeing a woman whom he had cheated on his wife with. She has a son in a wheelchair how much better can a Narc. Have it the ultimate woman to feed his sense of needed! He always bought himself flowers hmm? He sought the worst revenge.
They will always lose this I know, because he loved me and still destroyed
It! Feel sorry and move on. I want to shout out yo that woman with the child, but the revenge isn't worth it
the Ten years wasted.

A few days ago, I found out myself that my ex boyfriend had cheated on me. although we are no longer togeather because of the fact he had moved away and we decided it would be best not to try a long distance realationship. The news of the cheating still, ripped me to the core. In the beginning of the realationship he was the best boyfriend anyone could ask for. We sepnt as much time as we could togeather, and for the first time I felt happy with a man. But we both new our days were numbered due to his move. It seems like over night a few months before his move he started changing. He didnt want to see me as much, he would even schedule days that were labeled as "his days" I thought because he was moving soon he should have as much space as he wanted to deal with the things he needed to. I tried to be as understanding as possible. But time after time, he would find something else wrong with the way I was in the realationship. My emotions were uncontrolable towards the end, because I knew he was leaving soon but did not want to spend hardly any of that time with me. This hurt me but I took it, because I loved him. When it came time for him to move, we said our goodbyes and had what I thought was a good talk about what went wrong with us. After he left we kept in very close contact, we talked several times a day. And he acted towards me as he once did.

A few weeks after we had moved, he messaged me on msn messanger, and told said "I cheated on you". I was shocked it was out of the blue, I was talking to him hours before. I rushed to call him, with no answer. What he continued to write broke my heart. He said "I thought our realationship was stupid, so I stuck my penis in a vagina, maybe if you weren't so controlling then I" wouldnt have, I dont want to talk to you ever again."

I was shocked this only happened a few days ago, and im finding it very hard to wrap my head around it. The cheating is hurtfull by itself, but the way he told me blows my mind. Has he no respect for me? I did everything I could to make him happy. I wrote him a message the following day with no response. I need closure, I can't eat, I can't sleep. I thought I knew him so well and he turned on me like a dog, im schocked.

Not only am I trying to deal with this, but a few years before I met this man, I was in a realationship for 3 years were I was cheated on repeatedly. I didnt date after that, because I never wanted to be hurt like that again. Then when I met this man, I let my gaurd down and trusted him.

The fact that my whole life in with men have left me hurt, betrayed, and cheated on. Leaves me to believe that there is something wrong with me. I see no hope in my future for a man who loves me and respects me, and me alone. Im afraid I will never get the things I want in life. A family, childeren, and a loving husband. Im so lost in these emotions of not being wanted and being to stupid to knwo what is going on around me. I myself don't know what to think, or what to do.

I know there is hope, but I dont feel it. Everytime I think about my ex's I think of how happy I was, and how it was just a lie. Reading the stories and articles on this site has helped me see that other people go through the same things. But I have yet to hear about the happyness after you get through it. I hope there can be a light at the end of my tunnel. As of now, knowing im not alone, is all I can realy ask for.

There is hope. Keep your radar up, for even small inapropriate actions of risk and words. Do not ignore. Mine liked to cross the dbl yellow lines the look on his face was sheer joy! Tricked me several times into doing things I wouldn't do normally.He bought himself flowers..hmm. He said these hurtful things that shocked me to the core. I got back with my ex he buys Me flowers! Hope is there keep
radar on)..