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__________ The goal of this website is to give support to people who are facing problems in their relationship related to cheating, abuse and narcissism. I am living in Europe and English is not my native language, I wish you will excuse me if I make some grammatical errors. I have a background in neuroscience and behavioral sciences and I am currently doing brain research related to these topics in university in my home country. I decided to write in English because I wish to reach as many people as I can around the world. If you wish to read more about me, please visit page Site Overview. __________ I promised to continue the story I started in my previous entry. I will be writing about these things in this blog as they come to my mind, please feel free to follow my blog to get support and encouragement for your situation. I know how you are suffering with your narcissistic partner, otherwise you would not have looked for this kind of information. From this website you find support and help to break free from the mental addiction to "your" narcissist. It is not an easy road, but you are not traveling alone. We are all traveling together. Keep following my blog and keep up with the new additions (articles, personal stories etc) on this website. This website was created to help YOU. You are the reason this site exists. Please feel free to return to share the path to recovery with all of us.
 In my previous entry I wrote about the mental hooks narcissist had embedded into my brain, preventing me to get over him. All sorts of feelings were spinning around in my head after I made the final decision to cut "my" narcissistic partner loose. I felt occasional moments of weakness, but I quickly silenced the voices of doubts. I knew I had made the right decision when I left him.
We all want to feel our lives have some kind of a meaning. Narcissists are giving us a false meaning, we start to dream of "wonderful" future with this wonderful person, who is too good to be true, and on top of that he or she loves US! When we start to see the true colors of a narcissist, we have to give up on our dreams. That is the reason we feel so hurt and it is so difficult to break free. We are not really missing a narcissist, we are missing our dreams. It is important to realize this. Once we understand this fact, we start to see the bigger picture. We start to see BEYOND our dreams and slowly we start to realize what this life is all about. Life is not about the dreams, the PRESENT MOMENT is what counts. We can die any day. All we can be sure about is this moment. We need to organize our lives in such a way that we can feel happy TODAY. Narcissists can never make us happy. So we must leave them behind. We must pursue our own personal dreams, not the twisted, unrealistic visions we shared with a narcissist. Now I must go, but I will get back tomorrow with some more insights regarding these matters. Until then, BIG HUG to all of you!!!! - Maria If you wish to familiarize yourself with my blog and to read older posts, click this link to go to the Blog Main Page. If you wish to submit your own story and get feedback and support for your situation or if you wish to contact me for any other reason, click
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I have been with my husband since age 14, I am 45 now. I left him 6 times three of which I had a lease and my own home. I still came back, and have been back this time for 21 months and was ready to leave at 3 months.I just learned about this narcissism 7 months ago, and I am in counsel at the abuse womans center here in Florida.Both my sons 28,21 are effected by this, my youngest closes his self away, and has developed emotional problems. He likes people but feels he cant trust people, so he just avoids them. The handful of friends he has has been his friends sense grade school.My goal is to one day speak out for those victims and have groups of people that have suffered like myself. The way out is education and preventive. I have learned how to block out all of the hurt he sends my way each day. He caused me to lose my job after 14 years with the same doctors.They did not even know it was going on until I was gone. Black male,set up,he didn't do it directly he had someone else do his dirty work. I kept saying If I go up against him he will make me suffer . Now I can not pay for my car and may lose it.Thats all I have is my car and need that to find a job. I am so grateful for those people out there that put these bloggs on for us Thank you Maria 
