The goal of this website is to give support to people who are facing problems in their relationship related to cheating, abuse and narcissism. I am living in Europe and English is not my native language, I wish you will excuse me if I make some grammatical errors. I decided to write in English because it is universal language and I wish to reach as many people as I can around the world.
Welcome to these pages. If you are experiencing difficulties in your life related to cheating and narcissism, you will find help from this website. I have been through exactly the same emotional pain you are now experiencing. I know how it feels to find out your spouse has been cheating on you and lying to you. I have experienced the heartache and depression that follows after learning about the betrayal. It feels like somebody stole your comfortable familiar life. The one person you thought you could trust 100% has let you down. The recovery is hard, but it is doable. The aim of this website is to speed up your recovery process and help you to regain your happiness and mental balance.
I have written down the results of my literature search and some of my personal experiences of how to recover and heal after cheating or a toxic relationship with a narcissistic person. Human brain is an amazing device, it is possible to teach the brain to work in new ways in same fashion as it is possible to train the muscles in the body to move in new ways while learning to ride a bicycle, to dance etc. Proper training can help you to control negative emotions related to cheating or a relationship with a narcissist instead of letting your emotions control you. You can read more about this topic from page Recovery process after experiencing cheating and narcissism in a relationship.
Cheating and narcissism in a relationship
I know the horrible feeling in the stomach when you think about the details of cheating. I have felt the same anger, pain, anxiety and depression. It is impossible for a person who has not experienced infidelity to know what is going on in the mind of the cheated spouse.
The first reaction after finding out about the betrayal is initial shock. You feel your world has been shattered, everything that you believed in has suddenly been taken from you. You thought you were a priority to your spouse and now it turned out your spouse has feelings for someone else. The reason you feel hurt is because you must now reshape your image of yourself and your life. This reshaping is a painful process. It takes about two years for the mind and the brain to recover from a severe depression. It is the same situation with depression and anxiety created by infidelity or being in a relationship with a narcissistic person, and recovery can take about as long. Good news is that there are things you can do to help yourself to speed up the healing process.
The recovery process after cheating
The painful emotions that you are now experiencing are basic physiological reactions to certain events. When you learn to understand what is causing your feelings you will be able to control them better. As scientists today can stand on the shoulders of great scientists of past, such as Einstein and Newton (every graduate student does not have to invent the theory of relativity all over again), in similar fashion it will help you to recover faster if you read about the experiences of others who also have faced cheating and narcissism in their relationship. I found my own way to survive and learn to control my emotions, same methods can work for you. Simple exercises and small everyday actions can help your brain to adjust to the situation faster and help you to recover.
Your situation can vary: You may have decided to leave your spouse after you found out about cheating and you are now struggling to get over the pain caused by separation, or you may have decided to stay in your relationship and are trying to make it work again, but you are having hard time dealing with negative emotions related to the memory of the betrayal. You may even be the one who cheated and you wish to learn to understand what your spouse is now going through in order to help him/her to deal with the situation and recover faster. Whatever your situation is, you find help from here. This website provides information and support along with many stories of people who have been through what you are now going through. You are not alone.
If you wish to read more about these topics, please visit page Healing after cheating and narcissism.
For a short summary of the contents of this website, go to page Cheating and Narcissism Resources
To read more about cheating and how the mind of a cheater works, go to section Cheating and Infidelity. To read personal stories of life with a cheating spouse, go to section Personal Stories: Cheating and Infidelity. To read more about narcissism and how the mind of a narcissist works, go to section Narcissism. To read personal stories of life with a narcissistic spouse, go to section Personal Stories: Narcissistic Spouse. If you wish, you can read more about the content of this website and about my background from page Site Overview or go to other sections by clicking Main Menu links (upper left bar).