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___________ The goal of this website is to give support to people who are facing problems in their relationship related to cheating, abuse and narcissism. I am living in Europe and English is not my native language, I wish you will excuse me if I make some grammatical errors. I have a background in neuroscience and behavioral sciences and I am currently doing brain research related to these topics in university in my home country. I decided to write in English because I wish to reach as many people as I can around the world. ___________ First of all, it is always better not to make a narcissist angry, since narcissists can be very vengeful. Another reason for not to upset a narcissist is that for the so-called "normal" people (those of us who are not narcissistic), the revenge is usually only a short-term relief. It may turn against you once the sharpest peak of your anger has faded. You may feel you have sunk into the same level with a narcissist, and that is not a pleasant feeling. For a narcissist, taking revenge on somebody is not a problem, since they do not have normal emotions and they are incapable of feeling guilt and compassion.
Having said all that, if you still feel you want to make a narcissist feel bad, below are some tips as to how to accomplish that. If you wish to read about the methods I used to teach my mind and my brain to get rid of the "addiction" to a narcissist, please visit page Recovery After Cheating and Narcissism. If you wish to use your experiences of cheating and narcissism to help people around the world and generate income while doing it, visit page Use Your Experiences to Help People.
What is a narcissist most afraid of?Answer is the humiliation, ignorance and overlook by others around him. If you can create a situation where a narcissist feels his or her cover has been blown and other people see him or her as he or she truly is, that would be a perfect revenge against a narcissist. A narcissist is empty from inside, and his or her worst fear is that others will see that emptiness. Be careful, however, that you do not do anything illegal in your attempt to create a situation in which a narcissist would feel bad. Also, do not let a narcissist realize that you have deliberately created that situation, he or she may try to take the revenge against you with an incredibly nasty ways only a narcissist can think of.
A narcissist hates to be wrong If you can prove a narcissist to be wrong, that is making him or her feel small and insignificant, a feeling that a narcissist hates. If there is a debate and you know that you are right about something and a narcissist is wrong, best way is simply to present the waterproof evidence to a narcissist and then walk away, without too much explanation. If you start to talk about things or debate with a narcissist, he or she can magically turn things around and make it sound as if you understood him or her wrong, that a narcissist actually meant the same as you, but you just did not understand it. Another possibility is that a narcissist gets extremely angry and hostile. Both are unpleasant options, so best thing to do is simply to leave a narcissist alone.
Ignorance is the worst thing that can happen to a narcissist, especially after they have made some sort of a mistake. Only thing that could be worse is if you laughed at their face, but of course that is not wise, since you do not want the anger and rage of a narcissist to fall upon you. I have faced situations with a narcissist when I knew I was right about something, and I brought written evidence (from google, dictionary etc) and a narcissist would not even look at what I got, but would instead switch to the narcissistic rage mode during which a narcissist becomes blind and deaf to all reason and just shouts and argues as if he or she suddenly turned mad. This is a self-protection mechanism, since it is very painful for a narcissist to be wrong and so a narcissist is avoiding it at all cost. Rage is a mask a narcissist uses when a narcissist realizes he or she is in danger to be proven wrong. Therefore the best thing to do is that you leave evidence proving you were correct somewhere where a narcissist can easily find it and then simply leave and let a narcissist boil in anger in solitude. If you are interested in learning about the methods I used to teach my brain to let go of the "addiction" to a narcissist, visit page Recovery After Cheating and Narcissism. These methods are used to overcome the mental pain due to cheating but they can also be used to break free and recover after an abusive relationship with a narcissist. If you are able to control your emotions, it is much easier for you to decide what to do with your relationship with a narcissist. To read more about narcissism and how the mind of a narcissist works, go to section Narcissism. To read personal stories of life with a narcissistic spouse, go to section Personal Stories: Narcissistic Spouse. To read about cheating and how the mind of a cheater works, go to section Cheating and Infidelity. To read personal stories of life with a cheating spouse, go to section Personal Stories: Cheating and Infidelity. If you wish, you can read more about the content of this website and about my background from page Site Overview or go to other sections by clicking Main Menu links (left bar). - Maria You can contact me by clicking
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