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The goal of this website is to give support to people who are facing problems in their relationship related to cheating, abuse and narcissism. I am living in Europe and English is not my native language, I wish you will excuse me if I make some grammatical errors. I have a background in neuroscience and behavioral sciences and I am currently doing brain research related to these topics in university in my home country. I decided to write in English because I wish to reach as many people as I can around the world.

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Living with a narcissist is hell and heaven combined. In the beginning it is all heaven, but as time goes by clouds slowly hide the sun and the hell breaks loose. This happens so slowly that the victim does not even realize what is going on before it is too late.

A narcissist can make you feel as if you are the most important and special person to them in the whole world. They talk about their never-ending love towards you, and most likely they also believe in their own words at that moment. So, ironically, a narcissist is not really pretending or lying when he or she is praising how much he or she loves you. A narcissist is telling you the truth at that moment. But sadly the target of the love of a narcissist changes rapidly, because a narcissist is always longing for excitement and thrill.

A narcissist is "loving" you as long as you give a narcissist what he or she wants, which is admiration and unconditional love. This will keep a narcissist satisfied for some time. But the moment will come when a narcissist will no longer get excitement and fulfillment out of the relationship with you. When that moment comes, a narcissist will start to look for another provider of the narcissistic supply, without which a narcissist cannot live. A narcissist cannot stand being alone, so they will often end up cheating their husband or wife while they look for next Love Of Their Life. Once they find next provider of the narcissistic supply, they will dump the present partner often in a cold, emotionless manner. If you are thinking of leaving your narcissistic partner, please do not wait too long. If you wish to read about the methods I used to teach my mind to get rid of my "addiction" to a narcissist, please visit page Recovery After Cheating and Narcissism.

Short "honeymoon"

First 1-2 years with a narcissist can be like a dream, even though the signs of the future turmoil are already in the air. After the "honeymoon" is over, a narcissist changes. He or she becomes gradually colder, more emotionless and uncaring. You may wonder about the reactions of a narcissist in different situations. Your instinct is serving you well: The reactions of a narcissist in certain situations are clearly abnormal. You can read more about this topic elsewhere in this website. But the main thing is that you slowly start to realize that everything is not as it should be in your relationship. You may think at first that the fault is in you, but deep inside you know that is not the case. You have navigated to this website, because you know that things are not well in your relationship and you know it is not about you and it is not all in your head, but that there is something wrong with your spouse.

I used some very basic tricks and methods to teach my brain to let go of my "addiction" to my narcissistic spouse. If you wish to read more about this topic, go to page Recovery After Cheating to learn more about ways to teach the mind and the brain to get over negative events such as betrayal and cheating. These methods can also be used to break free and recover after destructive and abusive relationship with a narcissistic partner. If you can control your emotions instead of letting them control you, it will be so much easier to decide what to do with your narcissistic spouse.

You can read more about the warning signs and experiences of life with a narcissistic spouse from section Narcissism. To read personal stories of life with a narcissistic spouse, go to section Personal Stories: Narcissistic Spouse. To read about cheating and how the mind of a cheater works, go to section Cheating and Infidelity. To read personal stories of life with cheating spouse, go to section Personal Stories: Cheating and Infidelity. If you wish, you can read more about the content of this website and about my background from page Site Overview or go to other sections by clicking Main Menu links (left bar).

- Maria

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