She told me she wanted to move out and have her space for a while! Shocked, I asked what was wrong, and she went silent.......I then recommended we sleep on it, and talk further in the morning. As we prepared for bed, my last question was, "are you seeing someone else?", and she replied, "I am talking to this guy", whom she described as a "confidant".

In the middle of the night, I found that I could not sleep, and began looking through her cell phone records, only to find that she was calling this person repeatedly throughout the day and wee hours of the night, for months! It was clear, after twenty-five years of togetherness, she was involved with another man, and doing so behind my back. Her friends, family, and the man's wife knew what I did not. The drama that followed would rival a Jerry Springer episode.

I eventually came to a point where I asked her to leave. She shouted back, "I can't leave, you ruined everything by calling him and his wife!". In reply, I said, "I'm so sorry, I didn't mean to disturb your newly found love", would you like for me to call him? She sad yes. So I called, only to find out that he was no longer interested in my wife, and that he was facing a federal drug trafficing sentence. So with nowhere to go, my wife remained with me. Why? I have no clue. She told me she never met a man who made her feel the way that he made her feel, (and that included myself). She also claimed she needed money, ($50,000.00) to move out. I quickly declined, and told her to take what was in her name only.

Interestingly, her sister did the same thing with her husband, and all the while, their mother would meet with the two new lovers over lunch. Later, the poor husband was found swinging at the end of a rope from his second story balcony. He could not cope with his wife's new relationship. Not exactly happy endings!

In the the two years that have passed since I got my news, I have read several stories, opinions and strategies. I have talked with friends, family, and clergy, for any help that I could find to save my family and keep my wife. I would rationalize that she had sex before we came together, so what's the problem. After losing much sleep, and thirty pounds, I dragged myself to the family doctor for a physical. He found nothing wrong and asked if there was something else that could be the cause of my suffering. I told him of my wife's affair, and he responded with, "So she's getting a little on the side, what's the problem?, just before I fired him and asked for another doctor.

Now I find myself broken, literally. I even purchased a new Harley so as to have more things to do together. The vacations, concerts, dinner nights, and also the second home in another state were not enough. Now, after a serious accident on the bike, I find myself emotionally, physically, and financially derailed. Bankruptcy is my only light at the end of the tunnel. Every day is a phony pretense that I'm over her affair, while I observe her wandering eyes while we're in public places. Her family and friends sold me out for a mere thirty pieces of silver. I use the biblical reference as a metaphor for the value placed on me after many years of "exclusive" devotion. Spending all that I could within my financial reach to make and keep her happy.

So no more reading for me! Revenge won't work without inviting legal troubles, so I am encouraged to take the high ground, and be a good man. And to that, I wonder....what woman is looking for a busted up fifty-eight year old bankrupt man to begin a relationship with?
My new motto is, marriage is a divorce that hasn't happened yet. So beware, husbands and wives alike, nothing is permanant, so keep a watchful eye on your mate, (and the neighbor), because ONE DAY WICKED, THIS WAY WILL CERTAINLY COME.