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Dear Maria, I have been prowling sites for months on narcissism. Yours is the first site I found that truly seems to understand the push and pull of loving a narcissist. Your English is just fine, by the way. I will keep returning and reading all that you've written, but I wanted to say thank you for a site that may just help me turn the corner to leaving. Finally.
__________ The goal of this website is to give support to people who are facing problems in their relationship related to cheating, abuse and narcissism. I am living in Europe and English is not my native language, I wish you will excuse me if I make some grammatical errors. I have a background in neuroscience and behavioral sciences and I am currently doing brain research related to these topics in university in my home country. I decided to write in English because I wish to reach as many people as I can around the world. If you wish to read more about me, please visit page Site Overview.
__________ Dear Friend, Thank you for your email. I am happy that you have found my site to be helpful! I think only those of us who have experienced the devastating relationship with a narcissist can really know how it feels like to be torn into two directions: Logic tells you to leave (to RUN) but your heart tells you to stay. It is a conflict between emotions and reason. Such a conflict can leave a person incapacitated, mentally paralyzed, unable to see what is the best way to go.  People who are observing the situation from outside can see how bad and corrupted the relationship is and they try to give advice and support, but they cannot fully understand why someone chooses to stay in an abusive relationship unless they have experienced such a relationship themselves. I created this website because I felt there were so many things I wanted to say to people who are struggling in a toxic relationship, things which I believe would help them to see their situation more clearly and eventually help them to break free. If you wish to learn about the methods I used to teach my mind to let go of my "addiction" to my narcissistic spouse, visit page Recovery After Narcissism and Cheating.
There are so many people around the world who are struggling in a negative relationship. All those people are traveling down the same path, eventually coming up to same conclusion: The only way is out. I felt it is such a shame that so many people have to travel this path alone and learn these things in a hard way, instead of being able to benefit from the experiences of others. Often people are blaming themselves of the problems in their relationship, without knowing they might be dealing with a person who is suffering of a disorder called narcissism. Many people have never even heard the word narcissism. They might see a television program dealing with this topic and after that they go to internet and search for this strange new word from google. After reading some basic things about narcissism, they feel as if their eyes have been opened. It is a wonderful feeling to realize that you are not to blame, you are not "selfish, cold, uncaring, stupid" etc, but that you are dealing with an individual who simply does not possess necessary mental tools to be able to interact normally with people. Many people have written to me telling they did not realize their partner was narcissistic until they read the personal stories of people who are dealing with narcissists and descriptions of narcissism from my website. I am so happy that I have been able to pass on the information and to be able to help people to realize what is going on in their lives. In the field of science, understanding the nature of the problem is the first step in the process of solving it. Same is true in every area of human life, especially when it comes to human relationships. Narcissism is an abundant phenomenon around the world. There is a great need for support forums and websites which are providing people with information and advice. If you wish to help me in my work, you are welcome to write about your own experiences and send your story to me. I will publish your story in my website along with my feedback to you. The knowledge that you are helping others by telling about your own experiences will help you to heal faster. You are not alone. There are so many of us here on this planet who have been through exactly the same what you are now going through. Let us not suffer alone. Let us support each other and help each other to heal!! - Maria If you wish to submit your own story and get feedback and support for your situation or if you wish to contact me for any other reason, click
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